When we talk about raising children, the main role, naturally, is assigned to parents – mothers and fathers. But in fact, an important role in the formation and development of the personality is played by grandparents. Regardless of whether they live with their families or not, their impact on children is significant.
First of all, this is the help that grandparents provide, caring for them while parents are at work; Taking care of them during illness. Thus, to a great extent help relieve stress and overload of parents. Nowadays there are a lot of families in which children who have been left without parental care are brought up by grandfathers and grandmothers, families where grandmothers take upon themselves the upbringing of grandchildren when parents work from morning till late evening.
Many mothers and fathers believe that their parents are not able to raise their children, that they only spoil the child, allowing them liberties. But in most of the cases, this is a stereotype that has little to do with reality. It is not by chance that people say that a person becomes a real parent only with the appearance of grandchildren. Most often, it is the grandparents who give self-confidence and adequate acceptance of life.
Probably most mothers and dads asked themselves the question: “Can they trust the aging parents to raise children, will they not spoil the child?” I believe that there is no problem of fathers and children, there is a lack of a culture of communication in the family, inability, and unwillingness to understand each other.
However, helping parents in raising their grandchildren and educating them on their own is far from the same thing. How does the child’s psychology change, as well as grandparents, on whose shoulders is the total responsibility for the upbringing of the child left without parental care? From the position of the child, grandparents are perceived as parents. It is difficult to determine the age at which parent replacement will become less painful. The attitude and character of the child will evolve from how much the older generation is ready for such a substitution.
If you perceive the child as a huge responsibility – this attitude can do much harm. Responsibility should be the same as that of any parent. Each of us is responsible for our children, but at the same time does not forget about his personal life, personal interests as well.